Self-Care During the Holidays

As we are approaching the holidays, it is important to remember self-care. The holidays are a busy and exciting time of the year but it can be very overwhelming and stressful. Here are a few tips to help you enjoy your holidays.
 
1. Think about what you would like to have happen over the holidays before they occur and then you can set the appropriate boundaries with family members. For instance, think about whether you want to host this year or not. It is okay if you don’t. It is helpful to have those conversations now before the stress of the holidays begins.
 
2. Take time to yourself. Even with guests at your house, it is okay to take a walk or go to the store alone.
 
3. While the holidays can be a joyous time of year, it can also bring up emotions such as sadness or anger. It is good to honor your emotions and find healthy support to help you work through your emotions. And while it can be easier to rely on food or alcohol around the holidays, these unhealthy methods for coping will only make you feel worst. Try exercising or spending time doing something you enjoy such as reading or journaling.
 
4. Most importantly, be kind to yourself. Go easy on yourself during this stressful time. You will not be able to make everyone happy or accomplish all that you want.

Transition into Parenthood

Becoming a parent can be an extremely stressful time in a person’s life. Here are some helpful tips on preparing yourself for parenthood and coping with the stressors associated with having a child.

  1. Seek Support: There is pressure in our society to appear as though you have it all together. However, this pressure may lead you to become overwhelmed emotionally and to feel isolated. It is okay and normal to acknowledge you don’t have it together…none of us truly have it all together after becoming a parent. It is a messy and challenging time. Please reach out to those around you that are supportive and caring. If you have a lack of social or family support, it can be helpful to seek professional help from a therapist or join a support group for parents.
  2. Find time for yourself: While it can be tricky to find time for yourself, it is incredibly important!. This could be having your partner watch the baby for 30 minutes so you can take a bath, drive in the car by yourself, read a book or watch a 30-minute show. While it may seem fun to go shopping or get a manicure, these situations may cause you to become more stressed.
  3. Accept all the emotions that accompany parenthood: While you may feel happiness following the birth of your child, you may also experience frustration, crying, or sadness. It is normal to experience a range of emotions during this time and it is important to not fight these emotions. For instance, you can imagine your emotions as waves in the ocean. Rise up and down with your emotions and try not to fight them. And make sure to consult with a professional if you feel concerned that you may be experiencing a postpartum mood or anxiety disorder.
  4. Be realistic with yourself: There are many people that may want to visit with the baby following the birth of your child or you may have things you want to do around the house or in the community. However, having a length to-do list or feeling as though you need to appease others may lead you to become overwhelmed and exhausted. Please be mindful to how you are feeling and set realistic goals. Take things slow following the birth of your child and give yourself time to adjust. There will be plenty of time I the future to visit with family and friends or clean the house.

 

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